Peace Corps service is about cultural
exchange, capacity building, building relationships, taking bucket
baths, and having a great time. This service is not about getting
accolades---but every once in awhile it's ever so nice to get a pat
on the back, or to have a special interaction, especially when it's
unsolicited and sincere. This past week, the interactions came in
chunks of three, and they were the sweetest gifts I could've ever
received.
First, one of my teen club members,
Eric, came up to me during an afternoon break, put his arm around me,
and started telling me that he's never met anyone like me
before---that he thought, most of all, how encouraging I am to
everyone, generous, funny, and telling me he'll never forget me.
Eric went on for awhile before I stopped him and gave him a big kiss
on the cheek---saying to him—Now you go and Pay it Forward! Oh, and
Eric---I'll never forget you either!
Second, getting a photo here is huge, I
mean huge! Most don't even have a baby picture of themselves. So I've
been giving photos, 1x per month during our Friday assembly, as rewards
to those that either have done something special, or to someone I
just want to encourage. Last week I gave a photo to my friend and
neighbor Stanley, who came running home after school, saying it was
the best day of his life because all the girls thought the picture
was so handsome. But a few days later, Stanley came over, with his
now only photo of himself, and 3 photos of his dad who passed away
when Stanley was 12 years old. Stanley wanted to show me the
resemblance between he and his dad, and said “Tshepo, now I
know who I am because of this photo.” Ok, is it time to cry yet?
Stanley went on to tell me about his dad, and how he never spoke to
anyone about him before, leaving him feeling alone and sick for
months after the death. Communication in families is not the thing
here---but on this day, Stanley poured his big heart out because of
one little photograph. To sit with him was the real gift, and yes, Stanley---you are quite the handsome one!
Lastly, on this gorgeous, sunny winter
day, snuggled up and sitting outside reading, my friend Princess
comes from behind to try and startle me. After succeeding and taking great delight in that, she sat
down and told me that she rarely has ever cried in her life, but she
woke up this morning in tears, thinking about the day I have to leave
Africa. Putting down my book, Princess and I chatted the afternoon
away about everything under the bright African sun. When she about
to leave, we looked at each other realizing that both of
us will be crying in 16 months.
You never know when, or if, you are
making an impact on those around you, and even though I didn't need
to hear these things, it's nice to know that when you give, you
really do receive!
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